Mind Shift

LIFE TALK Today, I want to start getting real with you. Most of all I need to get real with myself. Many of you have followed me for years. I love you for that. Your support and encouragement mean the world to me. So, for you.. You know my struggles & my victories. Well, my BACK has resulted in a major mindset failure for me. The pain has tested every ounce of my being. Daily it has chipped away at my confidence, my goals, my vision, My purpose. Since 2020, I have had the most adversity I have ever faced in my life. I lost my little brother during COVID. I herniated a disc in my back for a 2nd time and the sciatica nerve pain was like no pain I have ever felt in life. On top of that, I lost several key people in my life who supported me. But had to make hard choices for themselves and do what was right for them. I respect that. But losing these people caused my house of cards to fall. Today, I write this because I am slowly building a new house in my MIND, BODY & BUSINESS(S). BEFORE 2020 I found my BEST-SELF. My mindset was unbreakable. I was working out daily, had no physical pain and my businesses were thriving. When I set my mind to it anything was possible! AFTER 2020 I still have back issues, my daily workouts are a major struggle & my business(s) are
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Murph’s Legendary Character Principles

My Legendary Character Principles I have found over the course of my life, my choices are based on key principles which influence each and every decision I make. As I have grown older my passion and conviction towards following these principles has grown stronger. Be it life experience. Be it Karma. I believe for each person it’s different.  However, for the most successful people in the game of life. I know legendary principles are like beacons of light which guide them through the fog of life. Especially when it’s hard to see exactly where you are going. Murph’s Character Principles: Family First = without a strong family you have nothing. Marriage and children are two of life’s biggest tests & gifts. Neither are easy. Both are extremely rewarding. Deciding not to make this priority #1 leaves you all alone. YourLEGEND = One’s purpose in life Seek to fulfill your purpose and Legend will live on through Legacy. You will have served your purpose when fulfillment overcomes you. Believe = Surround yourself with only those who believe. Gather the best people for each task. Pay them a fair wage. It will be scary. It will test your faith. But, they will help you realize your dream and accomplish your mission. Execute = Win Actions speak louder than words Execute – Just Do It Hard Work – Hustle – Grind Hard Work = give it everything you have and let go. One thing in life we all control is how hard we
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The Choice Is Yours…

How You choose will define the rest of your life. I want to paint a picture for you. A picture that is cemented in my mind at this very moment. “Imagine you are sitting on a park bench in one of the most beautiful parks you can dream of. Big green trees blowing in the wind. Dark green grass that feels like the softest of carpets. Beautiful red, yellow and pink roses all around you. With a large water fountain and kids playing.” As I sit on the bench and look deeper into the park… I find myself staring at a fork in the road. One path leading to the Left for as far as the eye can see. For all I can tell, this path leads to another beautiful park that might be as good or even better than the one I am enjoying today. The other path, leads to the Right… Into a tunnel. It looks dark and I can’t tell where it will go. All I know, I must choose which path to follow.” It’s in this moment, this picture of choice, where I get to decide how my brother’s death… will define my life. It’s in this defining moment where my life will go one of two ways. Which will I choose?   My Choice lies in this video If you have followed me for any length of time… I think you know which choice I have made. Over my 42 years of life I have
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Life Is full of 1’s & 0’s…

The rest is just your mind playing tricks on you. I’ll never forget my first computer programming class in college at Eau Claire University. COBOL (“common business-oriented language”) Here is what it looked like: 10101010101010101010101010101 Say I wanted to spell “Hi”. Here is what it looked like: H = 01101000 I = 01101001 Now just think about that. I wrote one word with two letters. That one word and two letters consisted of 16 digits. What makes this process so painful…. If you get even one of those “01101001” digits incorrect. The code will not work. Your system won’t do anything. It’s DEAD. Now imaging building Facebook!!! Can you feel my pain. Perfection was the game. There was no room for mistakes. Make a mistake and you failed. Plain and simple. My whole 4 year college life was about spending countless hours in a computer lab crunching code. Pulling out my hair trying to figure out where the code was broken… So I could fix it and have a fully functioning system. That made someone else’s life simpler. Kind of like your favorite app on the iPhone. What if, we lived our lives that way. Knowing we couldn’t move to the next phase until we had everything right in the phase before it. Needless to say, I would have dropped out of becoming an MIS (Management Information Systems) Major if I had to do another second of COBOL. It was against my nature. BUT!!! The COBOL code taught me a
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Life On Your Terms…

Is a life worth living. How many times have you caught yourself wishing you were doing something different. Not because you are sick of doing the same thing day in and day out. But because you don’t feel like your leading your life’s purpose. For all of us “Life On Our Terms” can mean something different. For some it is about leading a non-profit that makes positive change in the world for those who need it most. For others, it is inventing a new technology that saves people’s lives. For me, it’s about helping people create a “Self-Image” worth fighting for. So they can stop surviving and start thriving. No matter what your purpose is on earth. The most important thing is embracing it and moving in that direction. When I think about someone who has embraced “Life On Your Terms.” I think about Jenna Colvin. Who is a close family member of mine and someone who doesn’t just believe in “Life On Your Terms” she actually lives it. This week I have the honor of attending the RED TIE GALLA put on by Jenna and her team at FireFighters For Healing. If you have never heard of this non-profit and what they are doing to help families and their children who have been impacted as burn victims. Well, Now You Know!! Check Out What They Are Doing: http://firefightersforhealing.org/news Jenna is one of the leaders of this organization and responsible for putting on the RED TIE GALLA event. Tirelessly, Jenna
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We are connected…

Relationships develop from connections we had in the past My daughter Shay is suffering from anxiety. We don’t know why and the most stressful thing… We don’t know how to fix it. The other day I brought Shay into my office. She was walking around attached right at my hip. You can feel the tension and uncomfortable energy she gives off when in a place she is not familiar. Diana, on my Team noticed this while we were in the office. After I brought shay home and came back to the office that day Diana came in my office and said, “Tim, what is going on with Shay? I can tell she is very close to you and was uncomfortable in the office and around me… She was never like that before.” Diana was right. Her sixth sense told her Shay was feeling anxious about me being too far from her. Leaving her. This all started about one year ago. Sarah, my wife, brought her to school and showed up a little late to pick her up that day. Nothing that didn’t happen before. Well, when she walked into school to pick her up that day Shay was crying and gasping for air uncontrollably. She was having a panic attack. She thought, “Mom is not coming to get me. She is leaving me.” Now we all know, Sarah would be the last person in the world to ever leave her child or let them down. But, for some reason Shay
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A Fork In The Road - 2019

The direction of my life is evolving… As many of you who have followed my story know. I have had my real estate license since 2003. Ever since, I have been on a mission to become a real estate investor. Each and every decision I’ve made, from 2002 forward, stemmed from my goal of becoming a real estate investor who would one day build a beautiful property in one of the most prestigious neighborhoods of Minneapolis. How I was going to get there… I had no clue. My second goal, one I set for myself 5 years ago. “Create a self-image worth fighting for. Allowing me to achieve my goals and reach my untapped potential. Because I’m driven to inspire! To inspire through giving, caring, honesty, loyalty and as a Guardian of good.” This came from a place I could have never gone if it was not for my daughter Shay. The day she was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes it change my life forever. I was given the choice to become a fighter or to hide from a disease that is out to destroy her. You all know the choice I made. You have supported me, through TeamSugarShay.com, in a way I could have never dreamed of. 2019 has been an amazing year for me. I reached goals I never thought possible. I made my dreams come true. Building the home at West49thStreet.com was a dream come true for me. Raising $30,000 this year for TeamSugarShay.com and over $83,000
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My “WHY”

The other day my mother-in-law asked me, “Why do you share and tell everyone so much about you.” as she shook her head and gave me a look of bewilderment. I can understand her perspective. Coming from a generation where sharing your feelings, talking about your struggles and showing any form of weakness was frowned upon. How can I expect her to understand… It’s not her mind set. Over the course of my life, major adversities has come my way. Just like they do for all of us in different forms during your life. When I was a star athlete in high school I had to have surgery on both my knees. This took away a clear path to Division One sports for me. But, it put a chip on my shoulder. Giving me the drive to be the best I could be at whatever it is I am doing in life. I don’t take anything for granted. Because it could be taken from me in an instant. Alcoholism is something that runs rampant in my genes. This is an internal battle I face. Never letting it take me over… But, slipping to excessive drinking at times in my life, especially high school and college when the going got tuff. But, this internal struggle has shown me the power of positive thinking, conscious health and most of all willpower. Because focus and control over you and your surroundings drives one’s standards. The death of my father at a tender age
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“Focus Your Mind…”

Daily, I find myself discovering new opportunities to improve my mind, body, relationships and business. The problem is… Each new opportunity takes away from something I am working towards being great at already.   The constant mental battle between discovering new things and staying on your path towards greatness… is my struggle to the top.   Creating a daily agenda of monotonous tasks you know need to be accomplished. Then sticking with the agenda to accomplish those tasks over the long haul… makes me feel like all the oxygen is getting sucked out of my lungs.   I embrace the thrill of doing something new. It’s what I live for. However, when it comes to doing something over and over and over and over… Almost like packing products into a box as they come down the conveyor belt. That drives me nuts!!   Like Christopher Columbus, I strive to discover new lands and push myself into understanding the new world. Problem is, once I feel like I have it all figured out… I get bored and want to discover something new. It’s in this discovery about myself where I found the quest from good to great is immense. But, I know the key is focus.   Now, I am on a new quest to discover immense focus in myself. Towards the goal of becoming great at one thing. Instead of good at many.   Like Apa the “Super Sherpa” who has made it to the top of Mount Everest’s summit
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No Regrets

As I held my 96 year old Grandmothers hand Each and every day thoughts creep into our mind, like water dripping on our forehead, about why we didn’t do something. Why we found an excuse to pass up on our opportunity to take action. Yesterday, I made sure there were no regrets when it came to seeing my 96 year old Grandmother. It was a moment in my life for which I have never experience. I can say, it’s not something I’m good at… Sitting at the edge of Grandma’s bed for hours. Holding her hand starring into her squinted, wrinkled, eyes while observing her fight to take her next breath. As she held my hand all her strength went into clinching mine. I believe it was her way of hugging me. Holding onto me as if to say, “I will always be here with you.” As I sat by her side we talked about my wonderful wife, my two girls and all the things we are doing. As a mother of 8 children, Grandma knows what it’s like raising a family… She has done it all her life. With a faint smile and a whisper she said, “Show me pictures, of the girls.” I pulled my phone out and showed her the ones who mean everything to me. My three girls. After 20 minutes of me talking and Grandma fighting to open her eyes and see each picture. She clinched my hand tight saying, “My oldest grandson… Tell the
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